It's Oscar Night! The night of all nights we celebrate Hollywood, and the film industry's best work of the year. I love Oscar Night and always look forward to it!!
I have to admit I was pulling for The Descendants to win Best Picture. For starters, George Clooney plays the lead role. He was up for Best Lead Actor, as well. I related to George's character on many levels.
This movie is about a family of four. However, the movie revolves around the father (George) and his two daughters. George's character learns that his wife (who is dying) has had an affair. He is never able to speak with her about it, or even have a chance to work through it with her, because she is in a coma and dying.
Instead George's character has to work through the betrayal and hurt alone with his two daughters. It's a story about the power of love, facing your challenges, accepting your circumstances for what they really are and choosing to move on with your loved ones. In the end you can sense that everything will be alright, because the new family of three are there for each other.
The overwhelming and powerful emotions, for those of us who have "been there," who have suffered and endured much pain and sadness..There are no words to explain how heartbreaking and heartwrenching it feels to have your spouse betray you.
Trust is lost and gone...needing to be built from the ground floor up, if both spouses are willing to work hard at rebuilding their marriage...Hope is dreamed of for a time...Then believed in finally again...
I do believe that marriages can be rebuilt, and become even stronger than they were before if..and IF is the key word...both spouses are willing to work hard together..It is possible and worth it.
However, if, like with George's character and many of our situations (including my own), our spouse is not willing to rebuild our marriage, we must go on...life goes on...
My favorite scene is the closing scene. George's character and his two daughters sit quietly on their couch back at home with their mother's quilt spread across all three of them. They sit together eating their bowls of ice cream, shoulder to shoulder, not saying a word..but they are there together. The message I took away from this scene was that they still had each other, they would be their for each other always...
I related to this scene more than any other scene in the movie. Why? It reminded me of my situation years ago with my two young sons.
I found myself left to raise and care for the well-being of my sweet boys. We would often sit together in the evenings reading, watching a movie or simply talking together with our sweet golden retriever, Shadow, as well. We always knew we would be there for each other. They knew I would always be there for them. We even had a name for it...the Buddy System..we will always have the Buddy System!!
I found myself left to raise and care for the well-being of my sweet boys. We would often sit together in the evenings reading, watching a movie or simply talking together with our sweet golden retriever, Shadow, as well. We always knew we would be there for each other. They knew I would always be there for them. We even had a name for it...the Buddy System..we will always have the Buddy System!!
I hope we can all have the Buddy System with our loved ones in our lives...Knowing that our children matter, that they are loved is the greatest gift we can give our children and ourselves.
